How to Create a Kinder Mind and Eliminate Negative Self-Talk

Sometimes, we are our own worst enemies. And, negative self-talk can have a serious impact on our lives.

If you think it’s time for you to create a kinder mind for yourself, consider these tricks and tools from

Eliminate the words should/must do/have to.
Stop using these words and replace them with kinder words such as “I choose to.” I “Should,” “must do,” and “have to” can cause unnecessary guilt.

Smiling has been scientifically proven to make us feel happier. Try it and see what happens!

Say yes to yourself and no to others.
Imagine if we all said yes to others only when we really felt it in our hearts. There would be no resentment, and when we do things for others it would be done with joy, creating more positive feelings about ourselves.

Accept that we don’t all have to like each other.
Just as we don’t like everyone else, everyone won’t like us, and that’s okay. You might be surprised how liberating it feels when you are okay with not being liked by everyone else.

Set achievable goals and celebrate progress.
You can celebrate your small accomplishments by going to dinner with friends or buying yourself a small gift as a reward. Whatever it is, make sure that you are present in the moment when you celebrate, as this will reinforce that you are a wonderful person and you deserve credit for all the good you do.

Walk away.
Walk away from people who don’t treat you with respect. It’s not an easy thing to do; however, if you allow others to be disrespectful toward you, then you’ll perpetuate the cycle. You deserve to be treated with love and kindness—both by yourself and others.